After months of cramps bothering her intermittently, last night my daughter JOYFULLY ran into our living room with a red-soiled tissue to display the fact that she’s officially hit the period gang. So we got ice cream waffles to celebrate, I made sure she took pads to school today and she’s happy as a clam because it made her feel ever so grown up. She’s been prepped and ready for it for months so it was super sweet to see her run into the living room with her bloody tissue and a huge smile on her face.
Sometimes I feel like I’m getting this parenting thing right, @blazingjaya , whaddya think???
Big Mood™
And seriously, thanks for preparing her for this. My mom to her credit told me more than her mom told her, but even then I had some gaps. This is so awesome how comfortable she is with this! 👍
The thing that’s scary about this is.. it’s not even a vague exaggeration, not even for comic effect, it’s terrifyingly real. In all my time as a midwife assisting with and advising about breastfeeding, one of the most common responses I used to hear from teenage mothers was, sadly, ‘I don’t think I want to, my boyfriend doesn’t want to share them’ or ‘I think my boyfriend would be uncomfortable, because they’re kinda for him, yknow?’ Or some variation. Often, I’d hear the same things out of said boyfriend’s mouths themselves, about how it makes them feel weird seeing a baby sucking on ‘their’ boobs. The older a couple got the less often I’d hear it (though there were some… interesting statistical outliers), but every time it made my blood boil and took every ounce of self-control to be able to come up with a response. Eventually, I found the line ‘well, fabulous as he may find them, I think you’ll find your baby will appreciate them a lot more, especially because your baby’s potential appreciation is the reason they grew in the first place!’
Still, though, the level of entitlement and possessiveness, even casually as a joke, always saddened me. Choosing how you want to feed your baby is a big choice, and should be made based on your own lifestyle, personal reasons, accurate information and supported by those around you, not made based on something as dumb as ‘my boyfriend thinks he owns my tits’
Kid, if being mocked for fandom shit wasn’t enough to stop me when I was an actual 15 year old, hearing it from a 15 year old when I’m 30 is genuinely hilarious
They just posted this an hour ago, 12.03.18. just in case anybody is interested.
With the new update to Tumblr’s community guidelines announcing that they will no longer permit adult content on their site, we’d like to take a moment to reassure all y’all that we have your backs. With a very few exceptions (such as spam and the like), if it’s legal under US law, it’s okay to post here. We’re 100% user-supported, with no advertisers and no venture capitalists to please, and that means we’re here for you, not for shady conglomerates that buy up your data and use it in nefarious ways.
Tumblr’s definition of “adult content” seems to be inherently visual, and I also wanted to remind people that we do have basic image hosting. (It’s definitely not as slick and easy to use as Tumblr’s, I won’t lie, but it does exist.) If you want to include images in your posts, you can upload them and the site will give you HTML that you can paste into your entry. Or, if you have post-by-email set up, just attach the image to the end of your email and it’ll be posted. All users have a 500MB image hosting quota right now. I know that’s small for people looking for a place to host NSFW image blogs, but we are reviewing usage statistics to see if we can increase it, or at least make it possible for people to pay for more quota like you can for more icons.
Holy shit!
Wow, that’s some great service right there! Why the fuck did no one go there to begin with in the first place?
I’m thinking the limited pic sharing space and the more closed atmosphere of it. Personally, I prefer the format way more than that on Tumblr. I never really liked how this site was set up after being an LJ user. I prefer the journal based way of sharing but I know a lot of people would miss reblogging abilities.
Pillowfort has that…like, you get the journal but you can reblog from.main into other comms…or make a post to go into that comm only that’s off main. I got used to the reblogs here. I dunno that I can go back to copypasta x-posting 😂
Believe me, we tried to make fetch happen. We really did. But by the time DW was up and running and pretty good as a site, LJ fandom was splintering. Everyone said “wait and see” for long enough that the drive to make DW active just wasn’t there.
Many people desperately clung to LJ. They felt attacked by all of the attempts to make them go to DW or the other options. They felt abandoned by the people who jumped ship before they really had to. They wanted to stick it out and either try to deal with the new policies or make petitions and see if they could get LJ back on track.
Other people favored a different journal clone. Greatest Journal and Insane Journal were both popular with groups of fans at various times. The set of people who wanted to leave LJ but specifically wanted a LJ-like experience was divided, making each of these other hubs less active. Some people had already tried to leave LJ before the mass migrations, but they ended up in empty communities while the real action was still, for a while, back on LJ.
By the end of LJ, it had some features that weren’t available at the clones. Many people also had lifetime accounts they’d paid a bunch of money for. It wasn’t just the money either: having an account type that’s only rarely for sale marks someone as a long-time user. That social cachet goes away if you switch sites. The new sites didn’t have the entrenched communities or homey feel of LJ for people who’d been comfortable there for a decade.
By the time we all finished milling around, yelling at each other for picking the wrong journal-ish option, Tumblr had developed big fandom communities. New fandoms were active here, so here we came. Some people who like text and don’t like too many images staid behind. When I went and looked at my old DW, there they were, still posting regularly. Some people left fandom entirely. Some people went elsewhere and are now invisible to me.
Fans will use any site, no matter how shitty and lacking in features, if that’s where the rest of the fandom is hanging out.
I still belong to a couple of active yahoo groups.
But the biggest factor is that, back then, DW had no track record. We didn’t know that GJ would be gone or IJ inactive or that DW would still be living up to its promises a decade later. It sounded good but was unproven, just like Pillowfort now. LJ was hard to leave, just like Tumblr is now.
The sites themselves are different, but the social and emotional forces at work were exactly like what’s happening on Tumblr now:
“Well, I haven’t been deleted and my friends are here, so I’m staying.”
“That other site is weird and has weird features!”
“Let’s start a petition! They’ll have to listen if we get enough people!”
Fair enough. I missed a lot of this the first time around (Bleach fandom literally invented the kink meme, so there was very little moralizing beyond the major ship war) and then I fell out of fandom almost entirely while in the Navy and spent most of the this decade deployed or in a timezone with little activity during my waking hours. I ended up returning to a ghost town.
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